Heartroot, July 4, 2013
50s and 60s children who caused problems for their mothers would be threatened with, “Just wait until your Father gets home!” When Dad got back from work, Mom snitched on the kids and he was expected to mete out appropriate punishment. Mothers were believed to be impotent – unable to do anything but become frustrated with insubordination, relying on and requiring the male authority to be on her side in order to have any control or power.
Our concepts of male strength involve dominance, either intellectually, physically, materially or morally. Feminine strength has been typically defined in terms of perseverance: putting up with abuse and neglect and still continuing to give and give and give. The righteous victim becomes a martyr with moral strength, as in, “My mother was a saint”.
We also know what masculine strength in a female body looks like. Not necessarily enthused by a destiny of martyrdom, western woman has quite wholeheartedly embraced a male definition of Right and Might – we’ve learned to be smart, efficient and capable – to do stuff – and we manage to get an awful lot done…!
Positive power and strength in its feminine guise does have a lot to do with endurance, but not of tolerating a life of suffering. It is the ability to remain aligned and rooted, no matter what Life has in store for us, keeping our hearts open as sorrow, rage and ecstasy wash equally through us, wave upon wave. It is the ability to simply sit still and receive Life, perceiving all the things that normally escape us because we are so busy running around…doing stuff.
As we gradually learn to balance and access the masculine and feminine energies within each one of us, men and women alike, the sword of intellect is wielded with wisdom and compassion, physical strength is used to protect the vulnerable, material power is shared, and the spark of Source is witnessed in all Beings. The historical and habitual denial and diminution of the Feminine can no longer be allowed, so boundaries and limitations must be set with loving and firm intent.
It takes courage to sit still and not continue to addictively consume food… ideas… people… whatever will keep us entertained and distracted. It takes courage to just Be, allowing acute perception and consciousness of whatever arises from within and that we gather around ourselves.
This is strength in its feminine form, and this is what is asked of us now….